RATE YOUR COMPLAINT
CONFLICT | DEFINITION | Disagreement between ideas, views, or feelings | TYPE OF PROBLEM | Small | IT MAY OCCUR | Occasionally | HOW IT OCCURS | Not planned | Problem existing between all parties involved | RESULT | All parties may be upset | RESOLUTIONS | All parties want to work things out | All parties make an effort to solve the problem | May be resolved through peer mediation | KELSO’S CHOICES FOR SMALL PROBLEMS | Share and take turns |
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RUDE | Carelessly disregards or disrespects other’s feelings; | Small | Occasionally | Spontaneous | Based in thoughtlessness and poor manners | Can cause hurt feelings | Rude individual accepts responsibility | Rude individual may be directed to write an apology letter | Social skill building and education on respect | Tell them to stop | |||||||
MEAN | Intentionally disregards or disrespects other’s feelings by being unkind, inappropriate, cruel, and/or malicious. | Small | Once or twice | Intentional | - Based in anger | Can hurt others feelings deeply | Behavior often regretted | Individual responsible for the behavior may be directed to write an apology letter | The behavior needs to be addressed immediately | Wait and cool off | |||||||
BULLYING | - Any verbal or physical act that is intentionally planned AND motivated by a perceived or actual characteristic | BIG | One or more times | Intentional and planned | - The target of the bullying may be deeply upset or afraid of being harmed | - The target of the bullying may be deeply upset or afraid of being harmed | The bully often blames the target and denies the behavior | The target wants the bully’s behavior to stop, but the bully often does not accept responsibility | - Cannot be resolved through peer mediation | BIG PROBLEMS | Talk to an Adult |